Comments on: Thanksgiving, Families and Troubled Teen Blog Nostalgia http://www.troubledteenblog.com/thanksgiving-families-and-troubled-teen-blog-nostalgia/ Families Struggling with Troubled Teen Issues Sat, 31 Jul 2010 11:16:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: kidsRTC http://www.troubledteenblog.com/thanksgiving-families-and-troubled-teen-blog-nostalgia/comment-page-1/#comment-1407 kidsRTC Tue, 01 Dec 2009 05:16:56 +0000 http://www.troubledteenblog.com/?p=2893#comment-1407 Dear Heart Broken Mom, I know there is nothing I can say that can relieve your loss and pain. A very good friend of mine lost her son a few weeks ago. I am very aware how real this is. Thank you for your comment and making us all be more aware that even though some of our teens are difficult we are blessed to have them in our lives. Dear Heart Broken Mom,
I know there is nothing I can say that can relieve your loss and pain. A very good friend of mine lost her son a few weeks ago. I am very aware how real this is. Thank you for your comment and making us all be more aware that even though some of our teens are difficult we are blessed to have them in our lives.

]]> By: Heart Broken Mom http://www.troubledteenblog.com/thanksgiving-families-and-troubled-teen-blog-nostalgia/comment-page-1/#comment-1405 Heart Broken Mom Mon, 30 Nov 2009 16:23:51 +0000 http://www.troubledteenblog.com/?p=2893#comment-1405 Hi Angie: Thanksgiving was very different for me and my surviving 4 children. My son Bret went through the Second Nature Wilderness program where he went willingly he soon changed his mind. His resistance at first to the program extended his stay for a three month stay. Little did I know that the big smile he had on his face totting his huge backpack on his last day of camp would be one that I had blown up in size to display at his memorial service. Bret completed the wilderness program in Utah and then went on to attend a Boys Ranch in Idaho for his senior year. He was a cowboy/redneck at heart so living in a yert on a 1,ooo acre horse ranch seemed to be right up his alley. My son seemed to struggle from a very early age of course being diagnosed with ADD (who wasn't at that time 1994, 95'). Bret was born Oct. 4 1988 he was my beautiful son coming into this world with a twin sister. Bret was special, he had such a loving heart but became very troubled and angry at age 1 when his father left me for a younger woman. Bret struggled the rest of his life trying to get his father to tell the truth and explain why he put his family through this extreme heartache and lied over and over. I truly tried to make up for that loss of love he felt but he would struggle for his fathers love and acceptance up until the day he took his own life calling his dad several times but unable to reach him. I guess the reason I am writing this is certainly not to bring you down when you are feeling good about your sons placement but to say God gave us our children to love and care for I wish I would have had the strength to not just go along with my x husband to send him off to be fixed by someone else. I look back in hinesight and know that comming home for holidays just wasn't enough HE WAS LONELY. Bret has 4 surviving siblings my birth children his dad has 2 more children. We all miss him so very much and I wish I could have that time back with him that I so freely let someone else have. My life has changed forever, I miss him terribly. I don't blame my x husband but I do say this as a warning to all fathers- your son's need you and they need your love and understanding not jiust a disiplinarian and someone who is going to MAKE THEM A MAN!!! There is a common link to young men and troubled relationships with their fathers. So please please treat each day as if it were your last and love your children the way God intended for us to do when he blessed us and trusted us to care for them. Sincerely, A heart broken mom Hi Angie:

Thanksgiving was very different for me and my surviving 4 children. My son Bret went through the Second Nature Wilderness program where he went willingly he soon changed his mind. His resistance at first to the program extended his stay for a three month stay. Little did I know that the big smile he had on his face totting his huge backpack on his last day of camp would be one that I had blown up in size to display at his memorial service. Bret completed the wilderness program in Utah and then went on to attend a Boys Ranch in Idaho for his senior year. He was a cowboy/redneck at heart so living in a yert on a 1,ooo acre horse ranch seemed to be right up his alley. My son seemed to struggle from a very early age of course being diagnosed with ADD (who wasn’t at that time 1994, 95′). Bret was born Oct. 4 1988 he was my beautiful son coming into this world with a twin sister. Bret was special, he had such a loving heart but became very troubled and angry at age 1 when his father left me for a younger woman. Bret struggled the rest of his life trying to get his father to tell the truth and explain why he put his family through this extreme heartache and lied over and over. I truly tried to make up for that loss of love he felt but he would struggle for his fathers love and acceptance up until the day he took his own life calling his dad several times but unable to reach him.
I guess the reason I am writing this is certainly not to bring you down when you are feeling good about your sons placement but to say God gave us our children to love and care for I wish I would have had the strength to not just go along with my x husband to send him off to be fixed by someone else. I look back in hinesight and know that comming home for holidays just wasn’t enough HE WAS LONELY. Bret has 4 surviving siblings my birth children his dad has 2 more children. We all miss him so very much and I wish I could have that time back with him that I so freely let someone else have.
My life has changed forever, I miss him terribly. I don’t blame my x husband but I do say this as a warning to all fathers- your son’s need you and they need your love and understanding not jiust a disiplinarian and someone who is going to MAKE THEM A MAN!!! There is a common link to young men and troubled relationships with their fathers. So please please treat each day as if it were your last and love your children the way God intended for us to do when he blessed us and trusted us to care for them.

Sincerely,
A heart broken mom

]]> By: kidsRTC http://www.troubledteenblog.com/thanksgiving-families-and-troubled-teen-blog-nostalgia/comment-page-1/#comment-1402 kidsRTC Sun, 29 Nov 2009 22:17:05 +0000 http://www.troubledteenblog.com/?p=2893#comment-1402 Wilderness was out of pocket, residential treatment was through the California Schools. There is a law AB3632, but you have to qualify. Not all states have it. Yes it is very expensive and we will be paying for a long time. My son definitely benefited from his time there, but he still has his issues. I think he is 2 years behind the other teens his age and he will be 18 in February. Now I am having difficulties with my younger, 15 yr old son, but his issues are much different. The teen years have not been easy, know you are not alone. I am glad to hear you were all together for Thanksgiving. Even though I know sometimes it is not the best. Wilderness was out of pocket, residential treatment was through the California Schools. There is a law AB3632, but you have to qualify. Not all states have it. Yes it is very expensive and we will be paying for a long time. My son definitely benefited from his time there, but he still has his issues. I think he is 2 years behind the other teens his age and he will be 18 in February. Now I am having difficulties with my younger, 15 yr old son, but his issues are much different. The teen years have not been easy, know you are not alone.

I am glad to hear you were all together for Thanksgiving. Even though I know sometimes it is not the best.

]]> By: Debbie http://www.troubledteenblog.com/thanksgiving-families-and-troubled-teen-blog-nostalgia/comment-page-1/#comment-1401 Debbie Sun, 29 Nov 2009 21:42:52 +0000 http://www.troubledteenblog.com/?p=2893#comment-1401 Our Thanksgiving was okay, at best. But we were all together. How do you guys afford residential treatment centers or wilderness programs? They are so expensive. My daughter definitely needs something like this, but we just can't afford it. Any ideas? Our Thanksgiving was okay, at best. But we were all together. How do you guys afford residential treatment centers or wilderness programs? They are so expensive. My daughter definitely needs something like this, but we just can’t afford it. Any ideas?

]]> By: Anne http://www.troubledteenblog.com/thanksgiving-families-and-troubled-teen-blog-nostalgia/comment-page-1/#comment-1399 Anne Sun, 29 Nov 2009 00:59:50 +0000 http://www.troubledteenblog.com/?p=2893#comment-1399 Is there anybody out there that can guide me with my out of control seventeen year old. He was in residential for a year in Utah, but now a year later, our family is unraveling again. I am in desperate need of advice from parents who have dealt with the situation successfully. Is there anybody out there that can guide me with my out of control seventeen year old. He was in residential for a year in Utah, but now a year later, our family is unraveling again. I am in desperate need of advice from parents who have dealt with the situation successfully.

]]> By: suzanne http://www.troubledteenblog.com/thanksgiving-families-and-troubled-teen-blog-nostalgia/comment-page-1/#comment-1396 suzanne Fri, 27 Nov 2009 18:20:10 +0000 http://www.troubledteenblog.com/?p=2893#comment-1396 Thank you so much for pioneering this uplifting blog. Even though my Christmas visit with my son has been called off - for bad behavior - you do remind me that I have a lot to be thankful for. He is in a good place. Love to all the troubled teen families! Thank you so much for pioneering this uplifting blog. Even though my Christmas visit with my son has been called off – for bad behavior – you do remind me that I have a lot to be thankful for. He is in a good place. Love to all the troubled teen families!

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