In Italy there is a segment of the parent population that is doing the same thing, and I think it has been going on for generations. I am from Italian descent and have watched my father, an over 85 year old man, still glorifying his mother and still crying over her death. I have often wondered where this comes from and the observation has lived with me for years as I watched my Italian relatives interact. This may be where I become overly worried and anxiety ridden over my kids future. Is this the nuturing instinct that never dies?
This is my top 10 list of teen parenting lessons I have learned.
Don’t become the enabler. Make your teen responsible for their actions.
Be a consultant and not a dictator.
Call the police or dial 911 if either you, your teen or anyone else may be in danger due to their behaviors.
Let go of your ego, parenting [...]
Then yesterday I was driving back listening to an audio book and thinking about this particular son and how things were going since he has returned home. For a moment I got agitated wondering why I was taking so much time out of my day to accommodate his needs. Once again I felt the pull of being the enabler. Then I looked out over the blue water on the bay as I drove over the bridge toward home and began to appreciate the beauty and became grateful that he appears to be integrating well at this school. Something I did not think would be possible once he returned home.
It has been over a week since my son discharged from residential treatment. I really must count my blessings at how well it has gone. Even though at times I have blown it, with “fear based thinking” as I lay awake at night with worry and want to check his room to see if he [...]
I don’t want you to think that I am neglecting my blog. Actually it is quite the opposite, for those of you that do not know me, by profession I am a website designer / search engine marketer. Surprising? Most likely not. There has been a lot going on in the past year in web [...]
Visiting My Son In Treatment
Just when you thought the visits to treatment centers in Utah are over, I am back again, visiting my son in beautiful Provo, Utah. I had business in Utah so I thought I would sneak in a weekend with my son. Provo really is not that bad. Also coincidentally I was [...]
My recently turned 15 year old sons progress report is abysmal. It is his first year of high school, now what do I do? You would think with two before him, I would have it all worked out, but each kid is so different. I thought something was up and had been asking him over [...]
Once again it seems girls tend do better than the boys when it comes to adversity. According to a new study females are 4 times more resilient than males in overcoming adverse experiences. This is a study of very high risk teens who have been exposed to two or more of adverse events such [...]
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