Comments on: Relapse, Positive Peer Culture and Knowing When to Let Go http://www.troubledteenblog.com/relapse-positive-peer-culture-aknowing-when-to-let-go/ Families Struggling with Troubled Teen Issues Sat, 31 Jul 2010 11:16:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: admin http://www.troubledteenblog.com/relapse-positive-peer-culture-aknowing-when-to-let-go/comment-page-1/#comment-1091 admin Wed, 08 Jul 2009 23:35:54 +0000 http://www.troubledteenblog.com/?p=2518#comment-1091 I agree with you Beth, I will not be a hostage to their behaviors also. Mistakes are made and hopefully lessons are learned. Raising teens no matter how you slice it is a lot of work. Maybe God made it that way so that when they leave the nest we are glad! I agree with you Beth, I will not be a hostage to their behaviors also. Mistakes are made and hopefully lessons are learned. Raising teens no matter how you slice it is a lot of work. Maybe God made it that way so that when they leave the nest we are glad!

]]> By: TooManyHats http://www.troubledteenblog.com/relapse-positive-peer-culture-aknowing-when-to-let-go/comment-page-1/#comment-1090 TooManyHats Wed, 08 Jul 2009 23:29:34 +0000 http://www.troubledteenblog.com/?p=2518#comment-1090 You know what I hear in this post - more and more hope - is that odd? Really, okay son #1 totally messed up, BUT he accepted the consequences, is still working, and is moving forward - You Go Ds #1! Son #2 was about to fail that class again and with your help, your dh's help, and a pep talk from his brother he is making an attempt to bring his grade up. Both are making strides towards doing better. as parents can we ask for more? I know you have quite the history with son #1 and that has to be hard to get around, but it sounds to me like your family is getting more and more functional as a unit :) Oh btw, the earthquake thing is cracking me up. We live in So Cal and I never once thought to use that as an excuse for keeping tabs on the kiddos. I may steal it :) You know what I hear in this post – more and more hope – is that odd? Really, okay son #1 totally messed up, BUT he accepted the consequences, is still working, and is moving forward – You Go Ds #1! Son #2 was about to fail that class again and with your help, your dh’s help, and a pep talk from his brother he is making an attempt to bring his grade up. Both are making strides towards doing better. as parents can we ask for more?

I know you have quite the history with son #1 and that has to be hard to get around, but it sounds to me like your family is getting more and more functional as a unit :)

Oh btw, the earthquake thing is cracking me up. We live in So Cal and I never once thought to use that as an excuse for keeping tabs on the kiddos. I may steal it :)

]]> By: Beth http://www.troubledteenblog.com/relapse-positive-peer-culture-aknowing-when-to-let-go/comment-page-1/#comment-1089 Beth Wed, 08 Jul 2009 21:29:40 +0000 http://www.troubledteenblog.com/?p=2518#comment-1089 I check your blog daily, heart in mouth, to see how things are going. You certainly have your hands full with 2 teenage boys who both have their own issues--I feel for you, I really do. If it comes to the point where the oldest has to go back into treatment, or the youngest needs to have his turn, please don't hesitate to do just that. I always remind myself that my husband and I are entitled to have our own lives too, along with a little peace and serenity. We did not have that when our son was at home, as all our energy was invested in keeping him from falling. It is far too stressful to live that way, and I have made up my mind I will never allow it in the future. Of course, this is all easy for me to say now, because my son is still safely tucked away in his RTC. I hope when the time comes I will be willing to let him go if I have to, and suffer the consequences of his own actions. I will not be a hostage to his behavior in my own home ever again. Please e-mail or call me if you ever want to just talk. I am always there for you. Take care of yourself. Best wishes, Beth I check your blog daily, heart in mouth, to see how things are going. You certainly have your hands full with 2 teenage boys who both have their own issues–I feel for you, I really do. If it comes to the point where the oldest has to go back into treatment, or the youngest needs to have his turn, please don’t hesitate to do just that. I always remind myself that my husband and I are entitled to have our own lives too, along with a little peace and serenity. We did not have that when our son was at home, as all our energy was invested in keeping him from falling. It is far too stressful to live that way, and I have made up my mind I will never allow it in the future. Of course, this is all easy for me to say now, because my son is still safely tucked away in his RTC. I hope when the time comes I will be willing to let him go if I have to, and suffer the consequences of his own actions. I will not be a hostage to his behavior in my own home ever again.

Please e-mail or call me if you ever want to just talk. I am always there for you. Take care of yourself.

Best wishes, Beth

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