http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/forum/sexual-issues supporting families with troubled teen issues en-US Fri, 10 Feb 2012 13:18:02 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/search.php http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/birth-control-my-teen-wont-use-it#post-150 Thu, 03 Nov 2011 13:37:14 +0000 ktmiota 150@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>I am the foster mom of a 19 year old very delayed girl. She has been with us for 3 years and has made a lot of progress, but has reached her developmental stage, which I estimate varies between 9-13 years old. But she's hormonally 19 and is now sexually active.</p> <p>Several months ago, we put her on Depo (the birth control shot) before she became sexually active, so we could be proactive and not fight a battle once she had sex. Well, she is not refusing to go get her booster shot. She wants to try something different, which we are totally fine with, but is not an option until she sees her doctor which will be 6 weeks from now. We are trying to convince her to get 1 more shot so she's covered, but she simply refuses.</p> <p>She has all the risk factors for teen pregnancy: neglected her whole life and looking for something to own, something to love her unconditionally; low self-esteem; very few friends; dirt bag sexual partner who just uses her for sex yet she "loves"; longing to be like her mother, who had a baby at 19; succumbs to peer pressure easily.</p> <p>My husband and I have only been married 1 year and we are not financially, emotionally or mentally willing or able to care for her baby. It's simply our bottom line that she must be protected and if she refuses, she will not be able to live with us. </p> <p>Any advice to help us convince her without resorting to kicking her out? </p>