http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/forum/residential-treatment a safe place for families with teens en-US Tue, 07 Sep 2010 17:22:24 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/search.php http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/experienced-parent-seeking-interviews-with-similar-parents#post-18 Tue, 31 Aug 2010 18:31:10 +0000 sfree3 18@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>Dear friends,<br /> I am a now a frequent-flyer in the world of residential therapeutic treatment, having two children in this world. I am also an executive coach. I am feeling a very strong pull towards working with adults of children in residential therapeutic programs who want to overcome their struggles and isolation so they can live their lives with renewed joy, purpose and connection.<br /> I am looking to interview a few parents to listen and learn about their vantage points and challenges. It is simply an opportunity for me to listen and glean if there is value to help others in similar circumstances.<br /> If you are interested, please reply to me at <a href="mailto:susan@headsupperformance.com">susan@headsupperformance.com</a>, the company where my practice is currently living.<br /> I welcome the chance to learn from your wisdom. </p> http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/when-parents-dont-agree#post-9 Sun, 21 Feb 2010 06:47:04 +0000 AnneSeekingSerenity 9@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>I'm in the throes of a rather severe disagreement with my husband over our son's experience in a residential program.<br /> My husband wants to make more decisions, like when to visit and how to plan our son's summer, over the objections of the program staff. I want my son to stay there and I want to follow their recommendations, since they have years of experience and good results, and in my opinion they are incredibly wonderful people.<br /> I'm worried that my son will actually be kicked out of this program if the staff feel (as they do) that my husband is interfering too much and sabotaging their methods !!!<br /> What have other parents done in this situation ??? </p> http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/gateway-academy#post-13 Tue, 25 May 2010 08:46:03 +0000 StrugglingParent 13@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>For those looking at GateWay Academy in Utah (Salt Lake / Draper)....our story. We took our son to Gateway Academy after a wilderness program and they kicked him out 10 weeks later. </p> <p>Let's start at the beginning. We visited Gateway and were impressed with the home style atmosphere but were concerned that they couldn't handle our son who has DBT traits - anger management issues in particular. We fully described his behavior to them and they assured us they could handle him. Ten weeks later they kicked him out saying that they didn't think he would still act the same way after ten weeks. His behavior was in line with the expectations we gave them but we didn't know that he was on a ten week trial period and if they had articulated this we wouldn't have admitted him there as we wouldn't thing that 14 years of behavior would magically change in 10 weeks. </p> <p>The story gets worse though based on how they kicked our son out of the program. Our son had a bad episode and we received a call (we live across the country) that he was taken to the emergency room for admittance to the psych ward and that he wasn't welcome back at Gateway so we needed to make other arrangements. We don't necessarily question the decision to take him to the psych ward although he de-escalated immediately and was a model patient at the psych ward. Our son stayed their for a week as we scrambled to find alternatives, flew out to Utah and visited some facilities and then were able to transfer him. Gateway completely abandoned him and us. They didn't offer us any help in finding alternatives and they didn't even bother to bring our son his glasses or a change of clothes so he wore the same clothes for a week. I could give more detail but suffice to say they completely abandoned him/us after they decided to kick him out and couldn't charge us anymore. Perhaps this is cynical but they admitted our son when they had a lot of open beds and kicked him out when they were not a lot of open beds.</p> <p>There are some good caring people at Gateway Academy but the management team certainly wasn't in this situation. I wouldn't recommend Gateway Academy for anyone with a son with significant behavioral issues as I don't know if they could handle this - even though they might say the can. </p>