http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/forum/residential-treatment supporting families with troubled teen issues en-US Fri, 10 Feb 2012 15:10:48 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/search.php http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/inexpensive-programs-for-troubled-teens#post-186 Tue, 10 Jan 2012 10:39:28 +0000 gamom 186@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>I have a 17 year old daughter who is out of control. She is skipping school, not doing homework, smoking, drinking, hanging out with kids who may have gang associations, possibly using drugs and having sex. She's abusive to my two younger girls and to myself. She is shoplifting, and running away from home for three and four days at a time. The police tell me that they can't do anything when she runs aways because of her age and the fact that she always comes back. But she comes back to make life miserable for the rest of us. She is constantly destructing items in my home, and she has even gone so far as to hit her sisters and myself.</p> <p>I would love to send her to a boarding school for a treatment program, but I am finding that the programs are too expensive. $800 a month is the cheapest I could find! Because of the economy I was forced to take a huge pay cut when I got laid off and found a different job, and I don't have the money to send her to get the help she needs. </p> <p>Does anyone know of a program where tuition is free, inexpensive, or possibly covered with a scholarship? </p> http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/teen-rehab-in-california#post-175 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 14:32:59 +0000 stephaniej 175@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>My 15 yr old daughter needs residential rehab - is struggling to remain sober from drugs and alcohol. She is attending a sober school and going to NA meetings but just fell off her 30 day clean with drinking. Our insurance is Blue Cross Healthy Families which doesn't seem to cover anything. Has anyone had success finding inhouse treatment somewhere in California? </p> http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/a-former-resident#post-176 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 08:29:11 +0000 PastResident 176@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>I'm 24, and I still have nightmares about being locked up and a fear of constantly being watched as well as major trust issues from being lied to by staff that have affected many of my personal relationships since then.</p> <p>Remember to talk to the average kids there, they are the people your child will be around. It's very important to understand who your child's peers will be, I ended up living with a bunch of coke-heads with serious addictions (I only smoked pot occasionally), I learned a lot about drugs, and that influenced who I identified with when I left at 18.</p> <p>If you only talk to the hand-picked group the facility puts together for you, you are getting a seriously skewed view of what happens and what life is like. Almost any child you talk to will be scared to say anything questionable about the facility: speaking freely can easily make life more difficult for them.</p> <p>Don't ever lie to your child about anything when you send them away. The whole point is open communication, and anything you do to compromise that can seriously affect any trust they have with anyone in the future. DON'T EVER PROMISE TO BRING YOUR CHILD HOME AND FAIL TO FOLLOW THROUGH! NOTHING IS MORE PSYCHOLOGICALLY DAMAGING AND DISHEARTENING!</p> <p>Being in a lockdown facility can really, truly hurt for a long time. If you think you have no other choice, make sure you do some serious research, there is nothing worse than finding out that your parents don't know everything about where they have sent you.</p> <p>Even the best of these facilities have had fatalities, and have faced multiple lawsuits. Keep in mind the vast majority of them are profit-driven (<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aspen_Education_Group">Aspen Education Group</a> comes to mind, they are owned by Bain Capitol, and investment banking company, and own many, many programs) and as such are out there to get your attention, sell themselves, and make moeny just like any other business.</p> <p>I DO NOT BENEFIT IN ANY WAY BY THE CHOICE YOU MAKE, UNLIKE THESE COMPANIES I DO NOT GET A PAYCHECK BY WRITING THIS. I wrote this because of what I have experienced and what I believe because of it. However, the people who will encourage you to send them away make a living and a paycheck by doing so, and will warn you that there are people like me who are against these programs and should be ignored. Again, I don't benefit from typing this. I'm just trying to stop other people from having to suffer the way I did. </p> http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/girls-only-res-treatment-centers#post-171 Mon, 28 Nov 2011 05:48:46 +0000 Sue 171@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>Hi, am searching for a high quality therapy-oriented RTC for a 13 year old girl, anxiety, depression, sexually acting out and looks mature for age. Good student who functions well outside family until, but she ran away once and may do it again. Locked unit is preferable.<br /> I'm considering Sunrise, Kolob Canyon and Moonridge. Any opinions on these RTCs or any others I should know about? </p> http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/sending-your-teen-back-to-treatment-after-they-have-been-discharged#post-72 Mon, 20 Jun 2011 20:18:31 +0000 admin 72@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>I received a note today from a parent asking what I thought of sending a teen back into residential treatment after they had been discharged. </p> <p>Most important I don't give advice since I am not really qualified to do that but I can tell you my experience.</p> <p>We did send our son back to residential treatment after he had been discharged. We brought him back to our home state to attend a step down program and hopefully ready him to return home. He AWOL'ed from that program and we immediately sent him back to the program in Utah once he was found. I know that other kids have also had to return after discharge.<br /> If this is something you are contemplating it might help to talk with his past therapist at the program you want to send him back to. Let them know what you are experiencing. Since they knew your son while he was in the program they may be able to help you make a decision. </p> <p>I know how difficult these decisions can be. If they are acting out or displaying risky behaviors it may be in their best interest to return to some program. </p> http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/experienced-parent-seeking-interviews-with-similar-parents#post-18 Tue, 31 Aug 2010 18:31:10 +0000 sfree3 18@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>Dear friends,<br /> I am a now a frequent-flyer in the world of residential therapeutic treatment, having two children in this world. I am also an executive coach. I am feeling a very strong pull towards working with adults of children in residential therapeutic programs who want to overcome their struggles and isolation so they can live their lives with renewed joy, purpose and connection.<br /> I am looking to interview a few parents to listen and learn about their vantage points and challenges. It is simply an opportunity for me to listen and glean if there is value to help others in similar circumstances.<br /> If you are interested, please reply to me at <a href="mailto:susan@headsupperformance.com">susan@headsupperformance.com</a>, the company where my practice is currently living.<br /> I welcome the chance to learn from your wisdom. </p> http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/gateway-academy#post-32 Tue, 18 Jan 2011 00:42:35 +0000 jbarefield74 32@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>That 's not a good academy. They should have realized that the purpose for their existence is to help troubled teenagers. They are there to help people regarding behavioral conditions and yet they did that to you. You are right. They should at least refund some of your expenses since they said that they would accept your child. They should also sympathize. If you can go back there, talk to them again. If they still won't and you can't control it anymore, I guess you have to move on. Forget about them and concentrate on your child's feelings. Send him to another school. </p> http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/when-parents-dont-agree#post-9 Sun, 21 Feb 2010 06:47:04 +0000 AnneSeekingSerenity 9@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>I'm in the throes of a rather severe disagreement with my husband over our son's experience in a residential program.<br /> My husband wants to make more decisions, like when to visit and how to plan our son's summer, over the objections of the program staff. I want my son to stay there and I want to follow their recommendations, since they have years of experience and good results, and in my opinion they are incredibly wonderful people.<br /> I'm worried that my son will actually be kicked out of this program if the staff feel (as they do) that my husband is interfering too much and sabotaging their methods !!!<br /> What have other parents done in this situation ??? </p>