http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/forum/mental-health supporting families with troubled teen issues en-US Fri, 10 Feb 2012 13:20:11 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/search.php http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/troubled-teen-moving-in-help#post-90 Tue, 23 Aug 2011 16:50:22 +0000 Adem 90@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>Hello ms1977,<br /> Have you had any luck in this last year? I'd really like to read how you've been working on your step daughter's behavior and if you've seen improvement?</p> <p>I'd have to agree with homegroaning's post. A therapeutic and educational consultant is the best way to take what is otherwise a chaotic array of options and narrow them down to a few resources that really make a lot of sense. All of this while taking into consideration budgetary, medical, mental health, and other constraints. The best therapeutic consultants will meet with your step daughter, speak with the treatment team, and read any written history there may be. Finding someone who is really going to take the time to understand what is going on not only with the struggling youth, but also how they interact with the family (this is called the Family Systems Approach) is an excellent way to ascertain what the best-fit options may be. </p> http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/depression-cure#post-76 Fri, 08 Jul 2011 20:07:23 +0000 zealousmom 76@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>I have read this and want to share it to parents and kids too.........<br /> Depression cure summary: Here are some changes you can make now to become a happier person:</p> <p> Be true to yourself<br /> Look to the present, drop the future worry and the past regret<br /> Focus on positives not negatives<br /> Give yourself permission to move forward<br /> Work on your self confidence and self esteem.<br /> Make a list of everything that you are thankful for now in your life</p> <p>My son when he underwent depression a year ago, I tried to question myself and nagged him a lot. Then we came to a compromise then he joined teen boot camp, it did good to him.<br /> Hope this will work on you too. </p> http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/troubled-teen-moving-in-help#post-65 Sat, 23 Apr 2011 12:45:21 +0000 DrDore 65@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>Teen anger takes many forms. It may be expressed as indignation and resentment, or rage and fury. It is the expression of teenage anger -- the behavior -- that we see. Some teens may repress their anger and withdraw; others may be more defiant and destroy property. They will continue their behavior, or it may escalate, until they decide to look within themselves to the roots of their anger. </p> <p>But teenage anger is a feeling, an emotion, not a behavior. </p> <p>And anger is usually caused by something going on in a teen's life. Teen anger can be a frightening emotion, but it is not inherently harmful. Its negative expressions can include physical and verbal violence, prejudice, malicious gossip, antisocial behavior, sarcasm, addictions, withdrawal, and psychosomatic disorders. These negative expressions of teenage anger can devastate lives, destroying relationships, harming others, disrupting work, clouding effective thinking, affecting physical health, and ruining futures.there is a positive aspect to such expression, as it can show others that a problem exists. </p> <p>Teenage anger is usually a secondary emotion brought on by fear. </p> <p>It can motivate us to resolve those things that are not working in our lives and help us face our issues and deal with the underlying reasons for the anger.Teenagers face a lot of emotional issues during this period of development. They're faced with questions of identity, separation, relationships, and purpose. The relationship between teens and their parents is also changing as teens become more and more independent. Parents often have a difficult time dealing with their teen's new-found independence.</p> <p>This can bring about frustration and confusion that can lead to anger and a pattern of reactive behavior for both parents and teens. That is, teens are simply negatively reacting to their parent's behaviors, and parents react back in an equally negative manner. This sets up a self-reinforcing pattern of interaction.</p> <p>Blaming and accusing only builds up more walls and ends all communication. Remember that anger is the feeling and behavior is the choice.</p> <p>Dore E. Frances, Ph.D. </p> http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/troubled-teen-moving-in-help#post-60 Thu, 31 Mar 2011 22:54:05 +0000 bishop 60@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>I might suggest talking with your daughter. She will know why things went wrong at home with her mother. I might suggest asking her questions, and allowing her to answer them in her time. She may be able to identify a multitude of things. I would suggest being open to having this conversation, knowing that she may "blow you off". However I think this will be a starting point. Don't be afraid of her. She has needs, and may be displaying them in many ways to get them met. She may have learned she needs to do things out of the ordinary to grab attention. Children, in my experience learn to manipulate to survive. </p> <p>I might suggest that you are trusting and loving until time proves right to be otherwise. </p> <p>From here I would suggest asking her what she needs. Your daughter most certainly is in a lot of pain from her failed placement with her mother. Regardless of blame...who did what...why they did it, and who they did it for, children most certainly learn how to act to receive what they are seeking. </p> <p>Although your situation sounds difficult, all research points to the fact that youth being served within the home is best...following this, extended relatives...</p> <p>From my experience I have found that youth who experience "betrayal", by being sent out of the home will struggle with trust. </p> <p>I have found that building on strengths builds children. Acknowledge the good, and compliment it. At this point, regardless of the situation, and regardless of the hardships that your daughter will endure, she needs to feel pride. She will need to feel success. Show her the things she is interested may build her future. </p> <p>I have found that punishing children for previous actions is at a loss. You may never understand why a kid "did what they did"....</p> <p>You may only grow to understand what happened with continued conversation....learning her...day in and day out...a task that may sound daunting when she may present in an angry and defiant manner...but one most definitely worth your time. </p> <p>This is no small task you are taking on. Yet this is a worthy task. </p> <p>You can do this, if you set yourself up with a support network. You can do this if you choose to do this. </p> <p>I know many hardships come your way. I will be thinking of you. </p> http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/troubled-teen-moving-in-help#post-57 Sat, 19 Mar 2011 15:02:57 +0000 homegroaning 57@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>I would caution going directly from "at-home" to a therapeutic boarding school or residential treatment. There are many steps in-between and many different types of schools. If you can afford an educational consultant, they will help to guide you in making the right choice for your family. We went to therapy first, then wilderness, followed by residential care and finally a teen living program. </p> http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/troubled-teen-moving-in-help#post-55 Wed, 16 Mar 2011 02:24:52 +0000 getxtina 55@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>I highly recommend therapy. Your child must be in an environment that promotes growth and love. Sometimes it takes time for children to seek help and I had to commend you for being the loving mother you are. Ive recently been reading about this guide here: <a href="http://www.helpfortroubledteens411.com/turning-winds-review-help-for-parents-of-struggling-teens.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpfortroubledteens411.com/turning-winds-review-help-for-parents-of-struggling-teens.html</a> and fervently hope that these kids will eventually find the time to seek internal growth among themselves. I really hope your son will see how your love brought him to this world. Therapy does help but sometimes it helps more if it was voluntarily sought. My prayers to you. </p> http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/troubled-teen-moving-in-help#post-31 Sun, 12 Dec 2010 19:34:22 +0000 troubledparent 31@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>Many parents like you are experiencing such problems with their troubled teens. I suggest putting your step daughter in a Therapeutic boarding school. They're not the usual boarding schools you know. Facilities that they have can provide the means to help your child change their troublesome behaviors. You might think it's cruel to put your child into these institutions but it'll be fulfilling to find that it can definitely improve your child's behavior in the end. Do consider this. You can read about therapeutic boarding schools here --</p> <p><a href="http://www.teen-boarding-school.com/teen-boarding-schools/therapeutic-boarding-schools-information.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.teen-boarding-school.com/teen-boarding-schools/therapeutic-boarding-schools-information.html</a></p> <p>Hope that helps... </p> http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/my-teenager-self-injures#post-30 Fri, 10 Dec 2010 17:39:52 +0000 tasha1011 30@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>There are teens that purposefully injure themselves. I wrote an article that examines the teenagers who choose this behavior and helps parents to help teens find other ways to cope. You can read it at</p> <p>suite101.com/content/help--my-child-self-injures-a319144#ixzz17kyAENuI </p> http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/troubled-teen-moving-in-help#post-29 Mon, 29 Nov 2010 07:36:54 +0000 jensfairladyz 29@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>Hi :-) </p> <p>I hope things are going OK for you. I am in almost exactly the same situation. My daughter is 16 though. Could you let me know some of the problems you are having (if you don't mind) so I will know if some are "normal teenage" or not. One of the biggest problems here is compulsive lying. I haven't been able to find a "soft spot" which makes her care.</p> <p>Any help is appreciated.</p> <p>Jen </p> http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/troubled-teen-moving-in-help#post-28 Thu, 18 Nov 2010 21:11:33 +0000 janejana 28@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>Why not send your step daughter into the nearest <a href="http://www.troubledteens.com">troubled teen schools</a> that may help her. She will learn lots of things there. I think first you need to decide who she truly is. You all need to sit down as a family on this one. </p> http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/troubled-teen-moving-in-help#post-23 Sat, 23 Oct 2010 06:48:37 +0000 admin 23@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>Have you looked into an educational consultant? If you look on the blog I think there is a post about what an educational consultant can do for you. Sometimes a Wilderness Program is the best place to start. There are also posts about wilderness.</p> <p>Good luck. It is not an easy road. </p> http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/topic/troubled-teen-moving-in-help#post-22 Fri, 22 Oct 2010 23:39:02 +0000 ms1977 22@http://www.troubledteenblog.com/forum/ <p>My 13 year old step daughter is moving into our home full time. Her mom kicked her out because of her behavior, and is not willing to seek help for her in any way. We have tried for years to encourage counseling and having her assessed, but our hands have been tied because we live 300 miles away and only see her a few weekends a month.<br /> We are glad that we will finally be able to pursue helping her, but feel that her behavior is too extreme for counseling alone. She is extremely defiant, has anger issues, low self-esteem, is very manipulative, lies, steals, is abusive, and gets depressed. We've been considering RTC's as a last resort if we can't get her behavior turned around, but there are so many to choose from! Can anyone recommend a facility that is geared towards teens with similar problems? I'd also love to hear any suggestions for getting her immediate help and having her behavior evaluated. Thanks! </p>