Comments on: Discharging From An RTC Before Graduating or Turning 18

By: Rick

Rick — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 16:23:51 +0000

You have always had good wisdom as far as I am concerned. There are a
lot of newer parents here and they don’t know your history. Your right
every child is different and every family has different needs. I
always loved your troubled teen blog. Remember kids want to make
something out nothing. Stretch the truth… make the story bigger its
fun …and the parents believe it. The Hertitage program is not cookie
cutter and it can change the program to fit the child. Us older
parents of RTC know it still is not easy when they get home. The long
road continues. We just deal with it the best we can. I know your a
strong couple and you wont let these “pulling out early” comments
bother you. Your wiser then that..
On a hopeful note our son comes home with us to live at home on Tuesday.
We too are exicted about it…. but know many challenges await us!!

Rick

By: admin

admin — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 16:14:52 +0000

Hi Angie, Each experience is unique. There is the perfect plan and it is always out there. At some point life takes its own course and we work with it the best we know how. There is nothing worse than financial stress, along with teen stress you are doing the right thing. The time your daughter had is valuable. I know it takes more than love, but a loving home can be just as therapeutic. Your daughter may have her ups and downs but the difference will be you both have gained better coping skills. Stay in touch and please comment often.

By: Angie Laub

Angie Laub — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 20:27:01 +0000

I am so thankful for your story. I read the comments these parents were making, knowing they were misinformed. My daughter will most likely be leaving the same facility within the next 8 weeks because we have run out of money. She could have benefited from more time, but we will take all the skills that she has aquired and will continue to get her what limited help we can here at home. I am sure stories will emerge about our situation as well, but again we are doing all we can.

You are so strong, and your strenght helps me as I am struggling through this time in our families lives. Thank you for this blog.

By: TooManyHats

TooManyHats — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 02:55:29 +0000

This is what every parent does no matter the child. Make decisions for and/or with the child for that child. This means that no two families will have the same experiences or make the same decisions – each child is unique and that child needs to be addressed. You and your husband did what you felt best for your son at every step. I am sure there were people that thought you terrible for sending your son away and now people questioning your decision to let him come home now. So glad you are sharing your experiences here.

By: Mary Brent

Mary Brent — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 01:13:23 +0000

Thanks for sharing your story. It’s inspiring!

By: Jordan

Jordan — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 12:54:52 +0000

I think your right that a couple months might not have helped him make different choices. I’m sure that up until now, your son has made some very good choices, and as I’ve read, he’s made some not-so-good ones. But, now he gets to learn how to accept those not-so-good choices and the responsibility/consequences that they bring.

When I got out of treatment, I still make some stupid decisions, but I also made good ones. I’m excited to hear more about his journey through life. Thank you for the updates and I’ve never been to Utah. Been to Kansas, awfully flat…