I am not going to deny it, I am truly going through a difficult time as I question my ability to parent. Personally I don’t like to wallow in the negative, but sometimes life gets down right tough. Your comments on my last post remind me why I write this blog; it is your undeniable outpouring of support. Which I greatly appreciate every day and don’t know how I would make it without you. You have been there for me in the past and helped guide me through these past few days with thoughts of concern. It is through your comments that I draw strength and I know there are others out there that feel the same way, so the benefits of our community are exponential.
This morning as my doggy and I are on our morning walk before sunrise, there was a star, possibly a planet, shining brightly before me. I looked at that little star as I greeted the day and it reminded me of a Persian Proverb I once heard, that I would like to share:
“When it is dark you can see the stars”
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Im so tired, the harder I try the worse he gets, He is defiant. I have een trggling with him for over 2 years rning back and forth to court. He fially got off probation and then all hell broke lose. He has run away 5 times, of corse I made police reports, he hangs with the wrong crew and dos no respect authority. As I speak he is missing, I want to really jmp o him and wipe him p real good t I know that is not the answer, so wah to do. I wan him removed from the home bt they told me that would be cild neglect. So wha options do I have.?
Yes i understand that you did whatever you could have done at your home to bring your teen back on track.But at last if you are not successful then you can put your teen in some military schools or some institutions where they can get proper attention and they will undergo some wilderness therapy programs which will help them a lot.
Beth is right. You son does not have to buy into anything. He will if he wants to. It’s a crap shoot… if the combo is right, a lot of teens can be steered into wanting to get it right. With some, you can’t. In the end, free will reigns.
I’m going through difficulty with my own 16 yr. old son. And he’s in a troubled teen boarding school. And still choosing to do break rules, not try very hard and talk his way out of trouble – albeit the offenses are not as bad as when he was at home. Yet again, progress in a contained environment is hard to judge.
Keep looking up at the stars and planets, which have been around for a very long time, and then read this:
“I see no hope for the future of our people if they are dependent on
frivolous youth of today, for certainly all youth are reckless beyond
words… When I was young, we were taught to be discreet and
respectful of elders, but the present youth are exceedingly wise
[disrespectful] and impatient of restraint.”
Hesiod, 8th century BC.
A brilliant Proverb that I want to remember each day……You are a brilliant parent and an inspiration to me. Thank you for all of your sharing and wisdom…Just think about how many peoples lives you touch.
This morning I wanted to hand in my resignation, between the issues with both of my sons, but then I thought better. Give me a big margarita down by the beach.
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If I could, I’d post that classic photo of the kitty hanging on the tree limb with the caption “Hang in There!!”. Sending hugs your way!
Hang in there. Before the sunrise the night is the darkest. Luckily we have bright stars that guide us during the hardest of times.
I always enjoy these types of posts. It makes the blog seem alive.
Please do not question your ability to parent. You have done everything you can to help your son. Now it is up to him. I know you are undergoing a tremendous amount of stress and heartbreak at this time. Don’t make it worse by blaming yourself for your son’s inability or unwillingness to make the changes he needs to. Do what you have to do to take care of yourself and let your son deal with the consequences for his behavior, whatever they may be. We try and try, but we cannot save them–they can only save themselves IF they decide to.
Beautifully written.